Forgiving

When someone offends you or annoys you, your first reaction is to condemn them, to thwart them, to want to counterattack. It is a very natural feeling because it is human nature: always ready to "react", usually in a negative way. However, after the first reaction, before a second step is taken: a careful analysis of the situation and, consequently, a more mature reassessment of what has happened should be taken. If you are mature enough, you will come to understand that all your negative reaction is useless. Moreover, it's also harmful ... for "you"! Instead of being grudging and angry, know that everything that has happened is never as bad as destroying your peace of mind.

Forgive and forget...life can be really good if you learn to minimize your excess pride and self-pity.

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