Release

What does "release" mean? One of the definitions given by the dictionary is: 'to relieve from something that confines, burdens, or oppresses'. Think about our emotions: they can be of two kinds. One kind sets us free, the other burdens us. Positive emotions set us free because they make us feel good, grateful, fulfilled. Negative emotions oppress us because they make us feel upset, resentful, frustrated. Although everybody would like to feel happy, many can almost never behave in a way that makes them achieve such emotional state. Why? Because they are unable to release. They might think they are, when they manifest their feelings in a violent, usually aggressive reaction. This is not 'release', this is an 'explosion' that causes even more damage. To release means to communicate our hurt in a calm, yet assertive way. It means to express our pain sincerely, yet in a friendly way. Its aim is to bring peace, not war. 

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